My husband has locked himself in a hotel room. Do I check up on him or leave him there to hit bottom without checking on him?

There are those who say, “Leave him there. He has to hit his bottom.” Others would say, “Determine why you want to help him. If it is to soothe yourself, leave him alone and work on yourself. If to make…

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“All of my friends’ kids/spouses are successful, mine is struggling. What do I say to them?”

Sharing the good news of what is happening with one’s kids is something that starts when they start crawling and continues all through life. But what happens when you don’t have news to report? when your child is struggling with…

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Decision Making 101: Life in a Family Affected by Addiction and Recovery

Day in and day out family members make decisions. They make decisions about their lives and their futures. Sometimes their heads are clear and they are doing so in the best of circumstances with healthy intentions and situations in mind….

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Stop Walking on Eggshells with your Struggling Loved One!

Ever feel like being in relationship with a using or newly sober loved one is like tiptoeing on eggshells –  and the eggshells keep breaking no matter how softly you tread? For many family members, the stress and worry get so bad…

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Oh No! She Did It Again! I Can’t Believe it!

Do you ever get shocked when a loved one uses, even though they just used or drank or acted out yesterday or last week? If so, this blog is for you. This shock or disbelief when an actively using loved…

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Progress Not Perfection

Whether you have been BALMing for a year or two or a month or two or a day or two, there are aspects of Being A Loving Mirror that you are doing well and others that may be really hard…

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Focus on YOUR Recovery and Be A Loving Mirror

Ever feel like you are doing everything you possibly can for your loved one, yet they are not getting or staying sober? Perhaps you are in Alanon and/or SMART Recovery…Maybe you practice BALM®…You go to Naranon…You work your 12 steps…You have…

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