My husband has locked himself in a hotel room. Do I check up on him or leave him there to hit bottom without checking on him?

There are those who say, “Leave him there. He has to hit his bottom.” Others would say, “Determine why you want to help him. If it is to soothe yourself, leave him alone and work on yourself. If to make…

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“All of my friends’ kids/spouses are successful, mine is struggling. What do I say to them?”

Sharing the good news of what is happening with one’s kids is something that starts when they start crawling and continues all through life. But what happens when you don’t have news to report? when your child is struggling with…

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Oh No! She Did It Again! I Can’t Believe it!

Do you ever get shocked when a loved one uses, even though they just used or drank or acted out yesterday or last week? If so, this blog is for you. This shock or disbelief when an actively using loved…

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Progress Not Perfection

Whether you have been BALMing for a year or two or a month or two or a day or two, there are aspects of Being A Loving Mirror that you are doing well and others that may be really hard…

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Focus on YOUR Recovery and Be A Loving Mirror

Ever feel like you are doing everything you possibly can for your loved one, yet they are not getting or staying sober? Perhaps you are in Alanon and/or SMART Recovery…Maybe you practice BALM®…You go to Naranon…You work your 12 steps…You have…

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Tips for the Holiday Season

Enjoy the holiday season by staying in each moment from the inside out. Here are some tips to help you over the next 2 weeks: Be the change you wish to see in your loved one! Live your life at…

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Are you clear about what is going on with your loved one?

One of the most common answers family members new to coaching give when asked to detail what is actually going on with their loved one is, “I don’t know.” I don’t know. If you have a loved one who struggles…

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Advocate for your loved one’s recovery NOT for their desires!

Perhaps you’ve met a family like this. The daughter was constantly saying she would stop drinking, that she could do this, that she didn’t need ANOTHER treatment, that it just wouldn’t help anyway, that she needed to do it on…

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