A BALM Mother-in-Law

“My daughter-in-law has been crying to me about my son leaving her. In the past, I listened to her lies about how she really wasn’t using, judged my son, and begged him to take her back. This time, I lovingly told her the behaviors I was seeing her do that might be contributing to his need to leave. I let her know that I prayed every day for her to get sober and I understood how difficult it must be for her to stop using. I didn’t judge her or my son. I just shared the facts of what I was seeing and my love for both of  them. At first, she was angry, but when she saw that I wasn’t fighting or judging, she got calm and we had a real conversation about what options she had. She is planning to go to treatment for the first time in a long time. I think my practicing of BALM principles contributed to her decision.”